No arguing here!
You must not fight!

How often have we heard these words. Or have expressed these warnings to others. We were educated in this manner, and it is most likely, that we forward what we learned in early childhood. We transmit the deep believe, that quarrelling and fighting in conflict situations is bad. But:

We all know, that
at times everybody is
quarrelling, arguing, fighting!

All humans are quarrelling in conflict situations, but such behaviour is frowned upon. We feel bad about doing so, hence we are not really successful at it. Our conflict behaviour tends to lead into painful injuries – on mind and body. The conclusion is, that we must learn certain methods and rules. We have to practice fighting without risk of injury.
We believe, that the basic knowhow of constructive fighting should be part of any regular syllabus.



Konfliktkultur designs projects, organises seminars, participates in international conferences and publishes about the work done. We promote workshops about constructive handling of conflicts as basic competences for democratic citizenship.


Konfliktkultur – association for the scientific research and social political improvement of handling of conflicts.
Konfliktkultur communicates rules for constructive agreements and for clearness in conflict situations. The charitable association was founded in 1998 – and exists by voluntary engagement of its members. The association is a member of the Austria Network of Peace and non-violence.

Susanne Jalka




Since my childhood I grew up with impressions about Psychoanalysis and art. These themes and the search for a peaceful society in democratic political structures were the family’s influences on me and have ever been so in all experiences of my life. I lived in many different countries, was stimulated by coming to know diverse cultures and by successfully completing interesting academic studies.

Through training in Psychology, Psychoanalysis, Religionscience and Sexology and from experiences in psychotherapeutic practice and in several teaching settings I understood, that there is a general need in our education system for trainings in social competences. Hence I have been developing and organizing materials, projects, seminars and workshops to relevant topics like constructive handling of conflicts, self-reflexion, self-presentation etc. I publish texts and materials to these topics and engage in peace matters as a peace lobbyist.

Since my return to Vienna I offer seminars on the above-mentioned topics for students at the University of Applied Arts, at the University of Economics and Business, at the University of Music and Performing Arts and other institutions.


Today no longer available in stores, is this book (in German):
Konstruktiv streiten, das Einmaleins der Konfliktintelligenz
a good summary of the basic rules of constructive conflict culture. So here is a free overview to learn how to argue:

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